Feeding The Parking Meter Technique – How to get the best out of your time with your kids, and still get things done

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Feeding The Parking Meter Technique – How to get the best out of your time with your kids, and still get things done

Have you had one of those days when the kids are just driving  you crazy? Its this constant nagging, and following you around, and whinging and whining – its enough to make even the best of us wanna scream, right?

Well here is a very simple tip I learned that almost always helps…

Its called ‘Feeding The Parking Meter

You know all about the parking meter – you park, you pay and off you go to do your stuff…right? Well, its pretty much the same concept with your kids. On top of all else they love love love attention – especially from their parents. I know, we’re busy, and running them around to their school, and activities – but unfortunately that doesn’t count as money in the meter. What children NEED is YOUR ATTENTION.

 

So, how it works is easy – before things get tense – sit down with your loved one/s and give them your full attention – I’m not talking about sitting beside them when t hey watch TV, or watching them play at the park – this is full-on 1 on 1 attention. It can be anything thats suitable – preferably something you can engage in without getting bored!

 

The ‘how long’ part is totally dependent on  your child, and the activity, but I have found that this can only be 5 – 10 minutes. After that you get to go do your thing. Consider the time you spend with your children the same as putting money in the parking meter. This will ‘buy’ you more time afterwards.

The two main things to keep in mind are:

1. Make sure you are giving them 100% of your focus for that whole time. If you get interrupted, start the clock again.

2. Before you start explain what is going to happen. So you would say “how about doing <fill this blank> together for <however many minutes> then I need to go and do <whatever you have to do>” Lay it out clearly for the children so they understand – it helps a lot with acceptance if they know whats happening.

 

It sounds simple, and it is – and for the majority of the time, it does work. We get so caught up in our ‘tasks’ and in our life that sometimes we need reminding on whats possibly the most important thing – our kids.

 

Who knows, you might enjoy this so much that you find it is feeding your meter at the same time!

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